Despair reaches the point of abuse
I cannot take it any longer, completely drained from the mental toll taken from my sister Sonia. She has been with us for months. At first it was depression, then the apathy lead to a total abandonment of the self, which lead to serious neurosis. What was once a tolerable situation is now completely impossible and my days are eaten up by this ball and chain.
Life was once a joy to have her around and spending the weekend. Now, the self-absorbed sister of mine has engulfed the whole family into another state of her bipolarity. We have her medicated now but still, she demands all our attention and is sucking the whole positive energy around us. She never leaves the house but roams from room to room without a goal in life, moaning and groaning about what she could have, would have done in her existence; dragging us all down with her.
A friend of mine Caroline came over a month ago and saw our household literally slaves to her beck and call. She immediately took me for a walk in the park around the corner to knock some sense into my heart. For the first time in months, someone actually took a step back to be objective and tell me the way they saw it. Caroline put words onto everything that was happening to help the clarity of the other side of the spectrum. This situation was becoming abusive and I had to break free.
The next day I took action. I decided to get home care and home help for her and us. I got a nutritionist over, a shrink, a masseuse and a nurse to carefully make certain that she was taking her pills and getting help and stimulation. Little by little it relieved the pain and anxiety that this “live in” sister of mine was causing. The strain and pain it was causing was unbelievable, having to take care of her in this manner. She had completely inserted herself into our home and had taken over. However, I had to realize with this alleviation of chores thanks to all the caregivers I had hired to take over the tasks; this was my issue of letting it get this bad. Once I had started to take that into account, the dynamic release of all the hiring out turned the situation around and I was able to take a step back.
If it had not been for Caroline my dear friend, I think I would be in a nervous breakdown with no light at the end of the tunnel. That team that I put together saved my soul (SOS) and gave me my life back.
Photo : Demi Brooke